Oct 28 2011
The Calm (Baby) After the Storm…(Adventures in Colic Part 4)
The day I wrote my “Wise Cheerleader: Adventures in Colic Part 3” post…Kai stopped crying. Just like that.
That was exactly a month ago and I still vividly remember watching him sleep that first calm day. He looked more in his body, definitely more settled. The change was dramatic and palpable. After two episodes of non-stop crying ~ one that lasted 10 days, and one that lasted 9 ~ he was done. And that was it.
I didn’t feel the overwhelming relief I did the first time he stopped crying (perhaps because I knew it could return). What I felt was a quiet acceptance and even a satisfied-expectation. It just felt right ~ like “of course he’s done.”
Today he is almost 11 weeks old and he’s now the happy, happy baby he “told” me he was. He’s even becoming, dare I say….easy.
We’re in baby bliss mode and it feels absolutely scrumptious. And even though those 19 days were so, so, so hard, I wouldn’t trade them in for anything.
Those 19 days taught me more about unconditional love.
They taught me SO MUCH MORE about the art of allowing.
They taught me how to listen to my baby (and how much they REALLY CAN communicate with us if we just tune in).
And most of all they showed me my strength as a Mother. The last 7 days of constant crying, even though I was exhausted, I felt empowered. And I felt strongly, STRONGLY bonded to my incredibly brave, wise, crying baby.
As a mother who used to do EVERYTHING to keep her babies from crying, I learned that sometimes the ONLY thing you can do (if you’ve already done everything else) is to ALLOW them to cry ~ and provide them warm arms and a safe environment to work it all out.
I’ll never be able to thank my Baby Kai enough for taking me on this journey with him.
He’s been a surprise since the beginning ~ and I can’t wait to see what else he has in store.
Kai, the Diamond in My Sky!
Oct 28, 2011 @ 15:04:25
That’s great to hear! He looks lovely on that pic – very “here” and aware.
Oct 28, 2011 @ 15:42:41
That’s good!!! He looks so happy…..and enjoy every single day BECAUSE……from experience I know that once our precious little babies get over that stage….they will soon experience the awful discomfort of “teething”. I truly sincerely hope that Kai will be once of those babies that get through teething without any discomfort at all, but it doesn’t hurt to be mentally prepared!!!!
Oct 29, 2011 @ 11:39:16
ha! the same thing happened to me/us! as soon as howie hit that 11-12 week mark, he was a NEW baby! he laughs, smiles and coos and we are absolutely more in love. i was the same as you, at first i was leary bc i was sure it would be back. now we’re two weeks later and he’s a perfect, happy, calm baby! wow! so happy for you!
Mar 16, 2012 @ 08:10:42
So glad, a true diamond indeed! I’ve been missing your posts! x
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